How To Thrive Through Your Quarter Life Crisis
Maturity is the time of life when, if you had the time, you’d have the time of your life. -Unknown
Hello all.
We probably all heard of a mid life crisis. But how many people actually put any thought into a quarter life crisis?
For the sake of this blog post, we will term a quarter life crisis as a period of anxiety, uncertainty and inner turmoil that often accompanies the transition to adulthood. We will say that the age for a quarter life crisis is 25 years old respectively. I never really gave this topic much thought until, I actually sat down and thought about where I have been so far, and what is ahead. I had to check into my past and my future, and being 25 I’ll admit a bit of that quarter life crisis issue, kind of creeped up on me.
I didn’t feel so much that I haven’t done much in my life thus far, as my accomplishments such as graduated college, owned a home, moved out on my own, written and completed 2 books, managing a successful personal development blog are already in place. I am proud of what I’ve managed to accomplish at the age of 25.
My quarter life crisis, (if you want to call it that) feeling came from a wonder of what is next for me. Not so much fear, but more of a feeling of excitement and innocent wonder for the future.
I guess, I wouldn’t really call it a quarter life crisis then. It is more of a quarter life excitement. However, I have come across people my age, that actually have had this become a quarter life Crisis really affect them. I believe there are 3 causes that allow this quarter life crisis to unfold in a 25 year old. I will describe these 3 causes below.
I have found through observation, that individuals that really have a “quarter life crises,” generally are individuals who think very linear. They see things in categories and judge others based on their age and see people through egoic accomplishment. They may seem to see themselves as less or more on the basis of what they’ve accomplished at their age. These are the individuals that always seemed to always be doing stuff that they were “supposed to” at the age the were “supposed to.” Although, I don’t really think that is how I naturally operate, I made this post for those that do see things this way, to guide them through this phase.
3 Useful Tips on How To Thrive Through Your Quarter Life Crisis
1. Stay Present
Spiritual gurus, speak a lot about the importance of present moment awareness. The reason is because the present moment is where all your power resides. The past is over and done with, and the future is still unknown. So most of your joy and peace in life will come from what you do now. Although your action steps prior to today, have led you to this place, the point is to focus on what you are dealing with at this moment. As you become more present in your day to day life, you will slowly see the idea of a quarter life crisis begin to diminish. Be here now!
2. Don’t Compare Yourself
One of the things the ego loves to do is compare. It likes to compare where you are today with where other people are at. Don’t fall in this trap. This idea of comparison is what causes the quarter life crisis in the first place. The ego says “I’m 25 years old and I feel less, because other 25 year olds have more than me.” The reverse is also true. “I’m 25 years old and I feel better, because I have more than other 25 year olds.” Do you see how comparing yourself is all ego based, and doesn’t really serve you? Focus on what you feel you need to get done, and don’t base your emotions of feeling better or worse on what other people your age are “doing.” We all grow and learn things at different stages. Learn to be you now, not your “age.” Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time. Move along in your direction with confidence and joy.
3. Be Honest With Yourself
Regardless if you are going through a quarter life crisis or not, recognize that honesty with self will surpass this mini dilemma that you have created for yourself. If you aren’t where you really know you can be, start off slowly. First admit you aren’t exactly where you want to be yet. After you gradually acknowledge this and become aware of this, start making plans to positively change your situation. Understand where you are in terms of what you want out of life, and start from there. Don’t try to do so many things at once. Take it one step at a time, and be honest with your own progression and how you feel about it. As you move along, remember to celebrate the small victories along the way, and don’t be too hard on yourself. The more honest you are with where you are in your life, the easier and faster the solutions comes to your aid. Begin now to take positive action!
*Are you going through a quarter life crisis, or will soon be reaching this age? Have you already passed this age a long time ago? If so, I’d really like to know your thoughts and personal experience if you are going through this, or if it hasn’t effected you. Please leave a comment above this post, and let’s get a discussion going about this topic!!! Thank you very much.
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I really like this blog, please keep posting.
THank you Lissy. I appreciate your kind words.