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How to Get a Girlfriend Using the Law of Attraction


Editors Note: This is a Guest Post By Melody Fletcher of deliberatereceiving.com and deliberateblog.com.

How to Get a Girlfriend Using the Law of Attraction

So, you’ve heard about this Law of Attraction stuff, and it sounds pretty good. We create our own reality. We can manifest anything we want. We are infinitely powerful creative beings here to experience the physical and have as much fun as possible. Wow. I can hear you now. That all sounds really great. But what about real world applications? Can the law of attraction bring me a house? A car? Or better yet, can it help me to find the love of my life?

Yes, yes and yes. Here’s how: (Note, the title of this article contains the word “girlfriend”, but these techniques will work for either gender. The law of attraction doesn’t discriminate. For the sake of continuity, however, I’m going to keep using the “Get a Girlfriend” theme.)

Throw out your Wish List

Do you have a list, either on actual paper or in your head, of “must haves” and “can’t haves”? Of course you do. We all do. Throw it out. I know, I know, that list contains the best and worst of all the women you’ve ever met, going all the way back to the sandbox, but these requirements aren’t serving you. All they’re doing is blocking out all kinds of wonderful women based on some arbitrary criteria and that’s generally what these lists contain.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t have some preferences, in terms of characteristics you desire in a woman, but they should be very different from what you’ve been focusing on. We want to get down to basics, to the very core of what you want, whereas generally, when people make a list of non-negotiables, they’re based on very superficial things. What would a list like this look like?

For example, you might think that you absolutely could not get along with a woman who’s not a college graduate. But what you really want is a woman who challenges you intellectually and really “gets” you. Do you see how a woman without a college diploma could fit that bill? Your ideal girlfriend may be well read and well traveled, but didn’t have the opportunity (or the desire) to finish University.
Here are a few more core values you might want to consider:

• She’s attractive to you and you have tons of chemistry (instead of listing some arbitrary physical traits like blonde hair or big boobs.)

• She adores you just as much as you adore her.

• The two of you have a blast together (instead of listing that she MUST be into baseball, for example).

• She makes you feel amazing, sexy, strong, studly, intelligent, secure, protective, etc. (whatever’s important to you).

Do you notice a pattern? All of these core values come down to how they make you feel, instead of what she has to offer. Because what we’re all really looking for in a relationship is a certain feeling. We want to feel secure (they like us back) and attractive, we want to have fun together and be compatible, we want a person who “gets” us and who we “get” back. We want it to just click. Focus on how you want the woman to make you feel and how you want to feel about her and leave the details up to the Universe.


You’ve probably heard of visualizing before in conjunction with the Law of Attraction. But do you know what it’s really for? Most people think that the act of visualizing creates what you want. So the more you visualize, the faster your creation will arrive. That’s actually not true. Visualization is a tool to help you line up with the energy of what you’ve already created, which happens automatically when you want something. When you see something you want, it’s created for you. When you see something you don’t want, the Universe knows what you do want – its opposite – and it’s created for you.

You’re creating all the time, by offering a vibration (a collection of frequencies made up of all the thoughts you think.) Creation isn’t the problem, it’s the receiving that we have to work on. And visualizing helps us to do that.
In order to receive what you want, you have to line up with its energy (actually, in order to receive what you don’t want, you have to line up with its energy, too, but this is about deliberate receiving). That means, you have to find the feeling that you’d have if you already had it. When you visualize, your vibration actually plays a part. It’s kind of a dry run for real life.

Let’s say your vibration, which is based on your beliefs and thoughts, is set at “women are cheaters.” Perhaps you’ve proven this to yourself by manifesting a cheating girlfriend in the past (note: the belief comes before the manifestation, not before. You did not form this belief because your girlfriend cheated, you attracted a cheating girlfriend because you had this belief.) Now, when you visualize about your perfect girlfriend, you’d think that you could easily see her as faithful. After all, it’s your fantasy, right? But your beliefs will begin to create your visualization, and before you know it, you’ll see her canoodling with the pizza guy. When you try to see her as completely faithful, the discord between that vision and your belief will become apparent – it will be uncomfortable for you.

This is where you have to do some work.
Practice visualizing a girl that is faithful. It will be difficult at first, but as you keep at it, the law of attraction will help you. As you begin to think different thoughts, the LOA will bring you more and more thoughts like it and over just a short amount of time, it’ll get easier and easier to see this image of a faithful woman. When you reach the place where you can easily and comfortably visualize the kind of relationship you want, you’ve actually changed your belief. You’ve shifted energy, and that means, you’re going to begin attracting a different kind of woman.

More things to look out for when visualizing:

• Be realistic. Fantasizing unrealistically is a sign of avoidance. If you have beliefs about women that are too uncomfortable for you to deal with, you may well imbue your “fantasy” woman with qualities that aren’t going to be possible in real life. She’s not going to be a millionaire playmate ninja who seduces you in the Grotto. If visualizing yourself talking to a real live woman with a normal job whom you might meet at the coffee shop is uncomfortable, you’ve got some beliefs in there to take care of.
• See yourself as you are now, not five years from now. If you can’t imagine the woman of your dreams falling in love with you unless you picture yourself as richer, better looking, taller or whatever, you have a belief that you’re not good enough to find your girlfriend right now. And guess what that will create? That’s right. A single you, right now. The girlfriend of your dreams will love you just the way you are, warts and all, but you have to be able to believe that before it can become real.

Fix your beliefs or fix yourself

If you’ve uncovered any limiting beliefs while visualizing, you can slowly and diligently shift your vibration by changing your visualizations. This WILL change your point of attraction – the energy that’s responsible for what you receive into your life.
But sometimes, it’s easier to change your behavior than to change your belief. If, for example, you live in your mother’s basement, and you have a strong belief that the girl of your dreams would never go out with a guy like that, then it might be easier to move out on your own than to change that belief. If there are things in your life that keep you from feeling good about yourself, you’ll have to either change the belief or change yourself. If you do neither, if you keep things the way they are, you will continue to get the results that you’re getting.

I’d like to point out that it’s not the action (moving out, losing weight, etc.) that will get you the girl. It’s the fact that you’re catering to your belief and getting rid of the discord that existed between the two beliefs – “I want a girlfriend” and “I can’t get a girlfriend as long as I…”
So, if you’ve been visualizing yourself as much better groomed while with your girlfriend, for example, don’t wait until you meet her. Get grooming now. You will either have to change your vision to match your current reality, or change your current reality to match your vision. In other words, if you’re a bit of a slob right now, you can visualize yourself living in a dirty house with a girlfriend who doesn’t mind, or you can clean your house now to match up with your vision of a relationship where she likes a tidy environment.

Feel good about being single

One of the surest ways to keep what you want from ever coming to you is to think “I’ll be happy when…”, as in “I’ll be happy when I get my girlfriend.” The law of attraction doesn’t work that way. You will get your girlfriend when you’re happy. I know, it’s not fair. You KNOW that you’d totally be happy if the Universe would just deliver some hot chick unto you. Nope. Not gonna happen.
You see, every time you think “I’ll be happy when I get a girlfriend,” what you’re sending out to the Universe is “I don’t have a girlfriend now.” And THAT’s the vibration that’s creating your reality.

In order to change your point of attraction, you’ll have to find a way to be happy with being single. Think of it this way: If you’re a miserable bastard (I’m exaggerating to make a point. At least I hope I am), and you meet your perfect girlfriend today, is she going to want you? Who wants to date a miserable bastard? Remember that you have to be a match to her as well. So, if you’ve been visualizing yourself as happy with her, you’re going to have to match that vision first (i.e. get happy) before the Universe can make that your reality.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to overhaul your life. Remember that you can always change your vibration by working on your visualization.

Look out for signs

Finally, look out for signs that your manifestation is on the way. As you align with the energy of what you want, you’ll begin to meet a different kind of woman. Now, some of them might come into your life in a non-girlfriend capacity. For example, you might meet a woman who you’re not attracted to at all, but who has many of the qualities you want. Don’t worry. She’s not the one. The Universe isn’t going to ask you to settle. What you’re getting is a precursor to your manifestation. The Universe is essentially saying “Like this? Like her? These qualities? More of this?” When these precursors show up, notice the qualities you like in them (instead of the stuff that’s still missing) and appreciate them. These are the qualities that you’re already a match to.

You might suddenly find yourself surrounded by awesome women, some of which will become your buddies. One of them might even seem perfect, but isn’t attracted to you. Again, consider them precursors and appreciate the qualities they’ll have that you like. Remember that one of the characteristics of your future girlfriend will be that she adores you. If a woman isn’t attracted to you, or has some other flaw, she’s not a complete match to you. She may have been a bit of a vibrational match, 5 points out of 10 for example, or even really close to what you want, like 9 out of 10, but The One will match 10 out of 10. You will both know it when you meet.

If you’ve met a 9 out of 10, someone who seems perfect for you, but for some reason it just didn’t work out, stay focused and stay happy. It’s a sign that you’re very, very close. If you begin to doubt and complain about how single you are, you’ll be moving away from what you want vibrationally just as you were about to receive it. This happens all the time. Continue to appreciate and feel good and the Universe MUST bring her to you. It’s absolute. That’s why they call it a law.

Melody Fletcher is an expert on the Law of Attraction and Universal Laws. Using the metaphor of Vibration, she helps people to remember who they really are, and that we are all infinitely powerful, creative beings. Her main goal is to help others find the empowerment, freedom and happiness that every one of us truly deserves. She invites you to visit her site at http://www.deliberatereceiving.com and her blog at deliberateblog.com

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  1. trudy says:

    Very powerful stuff! I am going to apply this to finding the perfect guy now! I knew about the law of attraction, but I wasn’t ever able to put it into perspective with this problem. Thanks a bunch. :)

  2. Baker says:

    Yes, This is a very powerful post. I can see how a lot of my own relationships have reflected something similar to what is mentioned here, especially the not settling part. It’s not that I’m picky, I just know what I want.

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  4. Hi Melody,

    I always enjoy reading your articles, you have a knack for putting things into perspective.

  5. Dia says:

    Hi Melody,
    Great post! Exactly to attract the partner we want, first we have to believe that we can and we have got to get rid of our limiting beliefs. One of the major keys is to focus on the qualities that we want and be unattached to the result. This means, as you said, be happy now and enjoy your time now as it is. It will make things a lot easier. I actually did a lot of what you mentioned here and it worked beautifully. ;) Thanks for sharing Melody, great job :)
    I hope you are doing well Baker

  6. @trudy – I’m so glad that this post was valuable for you! :)

    @baker – thanks so much Baker! And thanks for hosting my guest post.

    @Todd – thank you so much for your kind words.

    @Dia – I know you’ve written a relationship book, so this is a great compliment. Thank you! :)

    Hugs to you all,

  7. Hi Melody/ Baker

    Great article on using the law of attraction to manifest our ideal partner. So many of us focus on what we don’t want and that is exactly what we get.

  8. Keith says:


    Great post. Another benefit of the visualisation is the “feelings” it generates. Napoleon Hill used to say to “infuse your desire with FEELING”. I believe this is where the energy comes from.

    Loved this, Thanks Melody!

  9. I forwarded this on to my daughters, I thought it was so good, but then it came from good old mom Who knows!

    “just remember she will adore you.” Oh to be adored.

    I am looking for a friend in real life someone to go to the movies with etc. and I am finding your list here just matches up with finding traits I am looking for. Several woman have come into my life the last year which have proven to be teaser friends, and I have found a great book group now with people who like to hear what I have to say too…so I think I am getting closer all the time.
    Great post Thank you

  10. van025 says:

    It is a very nice and interesting post and I enjoy reading it.People said that women are a hafl of world but it’s true that many of them do not know law of attraction.Thanks fr sharing

  11. Sean Cox says:

    Hey Melody–I like your insights here. Feeling good about being single–you mean it doesn’t help to project a dependent, needy, desperate, self?? Great point. Also, the importance of changing beliefs, but sometimes via changing our behavior–great insight. Thanks.

  12. @Keith – thanks so much. Absolutely – the feelings tell you if you’re in line with the energy of what you want or not. We have to learn to pay attention to our emotions in this work. They are truly the key. :)

    @Patricia – oh, what a compliment. I really hope your daughters like it. You’ve made an awesome point. You can use these same parameters and principles to attract friends, too. It totally works! Thanks so much for sharing your story.

    @van025 – thanks for your kind words!

    @Sean – Thanks Sean! I really appreciate your kind words. The principles are the same every time: stop pushing against where you are right now, figure out the essence of what you truly want, and line up with the energy of that. And Bingo. If only we weren’t dealing with things like fear and desperation. It would all be so simple then… ;)

    Hugs to you all,


  13. Great article Melody.

    This article is full of gems and distills the myths as perpetrated by “The Secret” that one just had to sit and visualise to manifest things. It’s all about your vibration and the feelings you generate.

    Watch this space for what or rather whom I am manifesting next…:-)

  14. yela says:

    Believe in yourself, believe in the power of attraction and believe you can attract others….But then again, if it doesn’t work, somebody else will like you and she’ll use LOA for you to get attracted to her..and so it really doesn’t matter much if you fail using this law…at least you tried…and at least someone else’ using it to catch you.

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  16. Amazing post!

    I’m the living example this works. I have done it all and it is one of the most amazing and deep experiences in my life up until now. In May 2008 I have used this amazing technique to attract the love of my life and I have met her 1.5 year later. She was a lot more than 10 to 10 and I’m happily living together with her right now! And it seemed that she has done something similar. Isn’t this amazing?

    I have not yet met any people who reported real-time experience about this amazing technique, so I’m very happy I could read this post. That’s why I have made a post ‘how to get get the love of your life’ in 2 parts sharing my experience in more detail.

    Thanks for this amazing post!

  17. Baker says:

    Hey Marc,
    Amazing. I love hearing success stories of the law of attraction working !

  18. Lizy says:

    This is amazing Marc, I will apply this Laws of attraction of yours to find my perfect guy.

  19. Fred Tracy says:

    Great article here.

    The one of the most important things you mentioned is to be happy while you’re single. There’s no reason not to appreciate everything about your current reality. As you say, resisting it will just keep you stuck in it!

    One more tip – don’t forget to bathe every once in a while. :-)

  20. Baker says:

    Glad you found this valuable. Feel free to grab my free training on the right hand side of this blog.

  21. Armi says:

    Hi!! great article.. Love reading it. And soon i might apply this Law in finding my perfect guy =)

  22. Jacobs says:

    Using the Law of Attraction to Get a Girlfriend Was Never Easier! Using the law of attraction to get a girlfriend is probably one of the smartest things you can do. It makes things so much easier if you know a little secret which will help you along.
    Using the law of attraction to get a girlfriend is not hard, but at the beginning, don’t target a specific someone, target a person who is PERFECT in every sense, for you! This is much more effective than trying to get a girl you’ve been working on. The universe has its ways of working and there are cosmic laws and vibrations involved. If you open yourself up, you’ll have a much better chance of getting a girlfriend.

    Later on, of course, with the help of CDs and books, you can master the technique of using the universal law of attraction to your advantage and if you can do that, no girl will be able to resist you, trust me! Good luck using the law of attraction to get a girlfriend!

  23. Jamil Tucker says:

    Just in case this does work. THINK YOU and THANK YOU UNIVERSE

  24. I dont suppose Ive learn something like this before. So good to search out somebody with some original thoughts on this subject. realy thank you for beginning this up. this website is something that is wanted on the internet, someone with a bit of originality. helpful job for bringing something new to the web!

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  26. john says:

    Thank you for this! I am 85-90% done with all the things you’ve listed in this article. My dream woman is definitely on her way right now, I can feel it!

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